This One Thing Can Make Your Kids Successful Adults, Even If It Drives You Crazy
Every parent wants their kids to be successful, and would do pretty much anything in their power to help make that happen. But get ready, moms and dads, to pine away for the good ol’ days when that meant limiting screen time and shuttling your kids to 347 different extracurricular activities per week.
As if that wasn’t hard enough.
According to Julie Lythcott-Haims, former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford University and author of How to Raise an Adult, the true critical element to raising children into successful adults is…making them do chores.
I know, making your kids do chores sounds like a great idea. At first.
What’s not to like?
Your kid learns valuable life lessons, and you get to scratch some tedious tasks off your to-do list without lifting a finger, right?
Not exactly, considering most kids fall into either the “too little to actually be helpful” category or the “too hormonally surly to actually help without a massive fight” category.
During those early years when your children are practically begging to help with everything you do, their “help” almost always means painstakingly walking them through the process, which takes twice as long as it would’ve taken to just do it yourself.
And then, of course, you end up redoing everything after they go to bed.
…sorry, I can’t finish that thought.
My eyelid is still all twitchy from thinking about putting those towels in the linen closet all mashed up like that.
Meanwhile, the creative energy required to convince older kids to help around the house is pretty exhausting, too.
And before you go thinking you’ll be able to motivate them with money, think again.
As financial expert Ron Lieber explained to The Huffington Post, paying your kid to do household chores just “[teaches] them that if they dont want the money, then they dont have to do the chores.”
Not exactly the message we’re trying to send, is it?
And yet if you don’t reward them, you’re in for more than a little whining.
But, Lythcott-Haims’ work is supported by her research, which is based on a Harvard Grant Study, which just so happens to be the longest-running longitudinal study ever conducted.
In non-academic speak, that translates to “this lady knows what she’s talking about.” So maybe I’ll have to stop my whining and get myself some stickers and a chore chart.
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